Well, that's not strictly true seen as how I'm using a rather snazzy laptop to type this on, but I love that song and it kind of fits with my thought for today.... Last night, I was asked, by a very lovely friend, the kind of question that, many moons ago, I would have found myself asking and obsessing over. The story goes.... "I went on a date last week, it went really well, we had a bit of a smooch afterwards and exchanged text messages... he said that he'd had a lovely time, that we should do it again. The following day we texted (when did this become a verb..?) a couple of times and then on Friday, I texted him asking if he was getting in the spirit of the royal wedding. He replied 'you want to marry me already? LOL' (I hate LOL) so I responded 'no, I'm just at work (she works at a nursery) making crowns with the kids.... do you want to go for a few drinks on Monday?'
Then, nothing. No more texts since Friday morning. And the dreaded question, why do you think that is?"
I don't know. I don't care. Maybe he's lost his phone. Maybe he secretly wanted to marry you already. Maybe he's already married. Maybe he's died in an horrific accident. Or hung himself because he thinks he's unattractive and un-marriable. He is, after all 39 years old.... Maybe he's just playing games. Does it actually matter? Ok, so you like the guy, but really? Why waste time and energy analysing the contents of text messages and snippets of conversation? Now, I'm not having a go at aforementioned lovely friend I am merely trying to make her realise that, actually, other people's actions are 1) uncontrollable and 2) quite irrelevant. All you can do in life is decide how you will respond to something. So, choosing to stress out and analyse and pontificate is all very well and good but you must see that you are only succeeding in driving yourself crazy. You are awesome, believe it (All of you...). You don't (shouldn't) need validation from some guy, or girl, or anyone else. I've said many times, fuck what society says, live your life, have fun.... Relax. I know you've a 16 year old girl to think about, but wouldn't you rather she saw her Mum cope with all of life's (very) minor setbacks in a positive and balanced manner? Shouldn't she learn that people are people with their own lives to lead, regardless of what we may want them to do or not do...?
I think so. And I also think that, at least once a week, everybody should leave their phone off for a whole day, stay off facebook and email and spend time with themselves doing something that they love. Sunbathe naked in the garden. Read a book. Go to a museum. Eat out. Do something. All by yourself.
Peace and Love.
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